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Be the Village, The Tribe, The Squad...

Wednesday, March 1, 2017

I was running late #always and so I didn't bother to notice the puke in Lucy's bed.  She hardly ate a bite for breakfast.  The first alert I had was Vera yelling from the backseat, Lucy's puking everywhere. #nice I ran her into preschool and smiled to my neighbor and said Lucy just puked, can you bring home Vera?  Village.

A sweet friend's water broke at just 33 weeks.  A friend texted us and we all went to pray with her.  Village.

Taking a meal.  Village.

A shoulder to cry on.  Village.

Watching another mom's kids while she goes to serve in her son's classroom.  Village.

We need a village.

Take it from me, each additional kid, as they get older, as I get older this do it yourself-er (and I am not talking about home DIY) realizes the deep, deep need for a village.  A tribe.  A squad.    You can not be all places, do all things, be everything to everybody every moment of the day.  You need help  .  Yes you do.

The Webster's dictionary Siri defines squad as a small group of people having a particular task.

Task -- motherhood
Squad -- mothers 

Motherhood was never meant to be an individual competition.  There is no podium, no trophies for participation.  Motherhood is a team sport.    It's messy, dirty, sanctifying, hair-raising, adventure-ridden, chaos with a lot of fun, squishy hugs and wet kisses thrown in for good measure and you need someone to high five and say - You got this.  

We cannot do it alone.  We need a squad.   A tribe.  A village.

We have a deep need for community and relationships.  It's in our XX DNA.

What if you don't have a village?  Well you need one.  

So be the village.  It takes being the village to have a village.   #activeparticipationfolks

Be the caretaker, shoulder, taxi driver, meal taker, accountability partner, and hand holder.  Write a note the good old fashioned way and walk it down to the mailbox or better yet give yourselves a moment to breathe and have your kids do it for you!

If you seek community, community will seek you.  To be a friend is to have a friend.  

Get out there and say hello (it's uncomfortable for everyone), you might just meet your dearest friend while sitting alone at the library.

To be the village is to have a village.  

To be the tribe is to have the tribe.  

To be the squad is to have the squad.  

No matter how big or small yours is, you need it.  So nurture it, care for it and give thanks for it.  Don't take it for granted, you are going to need them to get to that championship game.  They will be there to swoop in when you can't and you will be there to swoop in when they can't.    And one more thing, there is no maximum capacity in these villages so invite people in, everyone needs a village.

Now that's #squadgoals.

How can you be a village to someone today?  How has someone been the village to you?

Some of my awesome Squad...

14 comments on "Be the Village, The Tribe, The Squad..."
  1. Love this post! We all need our people... so thankful I have mine. Have a great day! :)

    1. Right? We need our people :) thankful for my blogging village too, you fill my cup too!!! xoxo ERIN

  2. So much truth! Thanks for being a big part of my village!!!! 😘

  3. AMEN!
    I loved your point about how you are a do-it-yourself-er. I'd never thought of myself that way, but certainly motherhood has helped me realize it. I need to let go and let people help -- ASK for that help -- and not see it as a sign of weakness or inadequacy. And boy, isn't motherhood SANCTIFYING!?!
    Grateful for you in this journey! Thanks for being the village for me this week especially!

    1. Oh man when I became a mom I thought I got this...I can do it myself...mmmm hmmm, that didn't work out so well ;). I need my village and I know I do. So thankful for you all xoxo ERIN

  4. This post is so, so good! Thanks for sharing! #momsohard

    1. Right? We need our's survival! xoxo ERIN

  5. I am slowly gaining a tribe and I couldn't be happier! All of my friends are still single with no kids and live in the city while I'm in the burbs so raising my kids without my friends around has kind of stunk but now I've made so many Mom friends especially since my son is in grade school and we have all started helping eachother out when needed and it's SO NICE!!

    1. It's hard! I was that mom alone in the library saying hi to a complete stranger because I wanted community and kept praying I would find a sweet friend. God answered but I had to step out of my comfort zone a bit. So thankful for community! And yes we need help from our friends, cannot do it alone! I often wish I had inspector Gadget's go-go gadget arms....we should work on that ;) xoxo ERIN

  6. what a team leader you rallying us to be in community! How adorable your family is..and I get such a sense of comfort looking at your community makes so much sense how we need one another..My son is 19 how, but his earlier years I found it hard to find the right community as a wasn't until he got into high school that we related both to his friends and the parents and were able to form a beautiful makes such a difference! I want more and more of that even as he is moving into his own life..I'm thinking about it alot in the empty nester years which is so important! thanks for your encouragement!

  7. What a great post! I am close to my Small Group and we've been through the good, bad, and crazy. I love having a group that has the same Christian beliefs and I can count on for anything. And it's funny that you mentioned #squadgoals because that's been our motto.

  8. This is so true even though as a fellow DIY-er I have a hard time admitting it. That was one of the hardest things about moving! I was just getting my tribe together after finding AFC, and it was an awesome tribe ;-) It took a really long time after we got here to start to seek that out, invite people in and rebuild what I had lost... I finally feel like 5 years later, I'm getting things together. And even though it's messy, it's way better than going it alone.


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