Keep God at the center.
As we strive to grow closer to God, we will in turn grow closer to our spouse. When we both follow after God and his calling in our life, our marriage will benefit. I can look back on our marriage and see times where I wasn't growing and I was selfish, arrogant and critical of Scott but then I can look back on times where I have been accountable to God and seen my heart soften to Scott's leading in our marriage and been a better support.
So, I certainly am a huge advocate to place God on His throne and follow his lead. There have been many times I sought God to "change Scott" only to be changed myself. God knows us intimately and wants our marriage to be a blessing!
Be a Student of Your Spouse.
We have attended a couple of marriage retreats and I cannot stress enough how pivotal those were for our marriage. Much like people who have attended marriage counseling say, everyone should do it. It was so powerful to our marriage. We learned things about one another -- what makes our heart feel loved, what hurts us, and what bonds us that we had no idea about.
We often show love how we like to receive it. We took the 5 love languages quiz and recommend it. We have changed over the years, because kids..."please just unload the dishwasher and do bath time tonight...and I will love you forever!" I am still learning so much about Scott. I know all the wrong buttons to push of course ;) but I am trying to learn the right ones to push too!
Have Fun Together.
We love to laugh. Yes laugh. We love to travel together (as kids allow) and try new things. Time together having fun breathes life into our marriage and the moments and memories bond us together.
Marriage can be hard but it can be so fun too. Our simple formula is to seek God, love well, ask for forgiveness when needed, be humble and have fun. At the end of the day, we know we will always be there good times and bad and I am thankful we ran into each other as young and innocent 18 year olds :).
All that to say, If you are reading this today and you are in a hard spot in your marriage, know you are not alone, email me and I will be praying for you. I have walked hard roads in our marriage as well as with friends and it is NOT easy but you don't need to walk alone.
If you have some awesome tips or frugal ways to have fun, I would love to learn from all of you so please share!
I am linking up today with Shay
for Workin' It Wednesday, check out their posts for more ways to make your marriage not only work but thrive!
Until next time keep on smiling and keep on keeping on,