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3 Ways We Make Our Marriage Strong...

Wednesday, February 8, 2017
June 17, 2006

It's the month of love and today I am diving into marriage.  I am by no means an expert and have learned the hard, hit your head, and try again way.  We have been happily married 10 years (and will be 11 come June!). We genuinely love each other and no one in this world that has my back more than the guy next to me.  We have learned a lot and still have so much to learn.

Today I am sharing 3 ways we make our marriage strong...


Keep God at the center.

As we strive to grow closer to God, we will in turn grow closer to our spouse.  When we both follow after God and his calling in our life, our marriage will benefit.  I can look back on our marriage and see times where I wasn't growing and I was selfish, arrogant and critical of Scott but then I can look back on times where I have been accountable to God and seen my heart soften to Scott's leading in our marriage and been a better support.  

So, I certainly am a huge advocate to place God on His throne and follow his lead.  There have been many times I sought God to "change Scott" only to be changed myself.  God knows us intimately and wants our marriage to be a blessing!


Be a Student of Your Spouse.

We have attended a couple of marriage retreats and I cannot stress enough how pivotal those were for our marriage.  Much like people who have attended marriage counseling say, everyone should do it.  It was so powerful to our marriage. We learned things about one another -- what makes our heart feel loved, what hurts us, and what bonds us that we had no idea about.  

We often show love how we like to receive it.  We took the 5 love languages quiz and recommend it.  We have changed over the years, because kids..."please just unload the dishwasher and do bath time tonight...and I will love you forever!"  I am still learning so much about Scott.  I know all the wrong buttons to push of course ;) but I am trying to learn the right ones to push too!


Have Fun Together.

We love to laugh. Yes laugh.  We love to travel together (as kids allow) and try new things.  Time together having fun breathes life into our marriage and the moments and memories bond us together.

Marriage can be hard but it can be so fun too.  Our simple formula is to seek God, love well, ask for forgiveness when needed, be humble and have fun.  At the end of the day, we know we will always be there good times and bad and I am thankful we ran into each other as young and innocent 18 year olds :).

All that to say, If you are reading this today and you are in a hard spot in your marriage, know you are not alone, email me and I will be praying for you.  I have walked hard roads in our marriage as well as with friends and it is NOT easy but you don't need to walk alone. 

 If you have some awesome tips or frugal ways to have fun, I would love to learn from all of you so please share!  

I am linking up today with Shay and Erika for Workin' It Wednesday, check out their posts for more ways to make your marriage not only work but thrive!

Until next time keep on smiling and keep on keeping on,

xoxo ERIN

10 comments on "3 Ways We Make Our Marriage Strong..."
  1. these are great tips esp the student one to your spouse! i never would have thought of it! So glad you joined the link up and can't wait to read more of your blog! hope you'll stop by mine as well :) Happy Wed!

    1. Glad you stopped by Cait! I will definitely have to pop by your neck of the woods. Life long learning of our spouse for sure :) Have a great day! xoxo ERIN

  2. This is spot on!! And yes to the love languages. Sooo important. We are attending a marriage conference this weekend!! I am sooo excited.

    1. Yay for a marriage conference, they can be such a blessing :) I hope you enjoy it Megan!!!! Thanks for stopping by...may you have the best day my friend! xoxo ERIN

  3. You two are adorable! Congratulations on 10 (almost 11) years. Being a student of your spouse is great advise, especially since we all continue to grow and change throughout our marriage.

    1. Oh you are so sweet Lisa thank you!!!! Yes always changing and evolving aren't we? xoxo ERIN

  4. All great advice! Having fun together is so important!

    1. Always fun and laughter - its the best stuff of life :) Always love when you pop by Lizzie, you are such a sweet encouragement to me! xoxo ERIN

  5. I love these tips. They are spot on. I love the being a student of your spouse. And yes, it is so important to know the buttons to push and which ones to try not to push. Have a great day!

    1. Jenna us teachers know the learning is never done, right? ;) Oh my heavens those buttons....sigh! Have the best day my sweet friend! xoxo ERIN


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